Question of the week #7

[treonb]

The marriage at the centre of the show is the one between Philip and Elizabeth, but there's another marriage that looms large as well: the one between Stan and Sandra. Both marriages have problems.

So here's this week's question: To what extent are those problems similar, or are they entirely different?  You can expect spoilers for the entire first season in the comments.

(There's no expiration date on these questions, so if you're reading this post months later and feel like jumping in, please do.)

Comments

[jae]

Philip feels like the victim because his "wife" cheated on him when he was faithful for 15 years. Elizabeth feels like the victim because she was forced into a marriage and sexual relationship with a man she didn't choose. Gregory feels like a victim because he gave everything for this woman who came over when she wanted sex/affection and then left for her home/life with another man--then she dumped him like an afterthought.

Yes, this is it exactly. And you know, while I do have my own perspectives on whether or not they each "have the right" to feel like the victim, in the end it doesn't really matter whether they have that right. After all, each of those perspectives is totally understandable when you're looking at it from the corresponding point of view. They've all been hurt--they've all hurt each other.

-J

[jae]

Yes, exactly! Agreed on all counts.

And tangentially, I find it incredibly frustrating when fans pick a side and decide the other one is just completely wrong (or even a horrible person). The whole point of the show is about to what extent it's possible to understand "the other side," the least we as fans can do is try to understand each of the characters' individual points of view.

-J