The interesting thing about Elizabeth, to kind of twist your words around just a little for fun, is that I don't think it's so much that she has a set idea about how the kids *should* be raised but rather that she has a whole lot of strong, screaming, overpowering influences all around her in how she thinks they *shouldn't* be raised so she and Philip just make one sloppy course correction after the next. Like I think she never pictured the idea of raising her own daughter and once she had to do it, the circumstances were so unideal I think she disengaged to an extent. I think she spouts a lot of what *kids* in general should be doing but almost seems more impersonal whereas even in the short flashback scenes and recorded scenes with her own mother that isn't the way their relationship comes across.